I had a long phone call with my friend Melissa last night/this morning.
She said I need a “Safety Plan” — people I can call and who will act as a support group for me when I’m falling apart. Like an artificial family.
I have friends like that, but ones who I grew up with on Long Island moved away from here a long time ago and the ones I met in college all live in far away places.
I can see the need to have such “safety” people locally accessible, but I have no idea how to get people up to the point where they can deal with some of the possibilities:
- Vomiting constantly
- Too weak to walk
- Night sweats
- Super high fevers & delerium
- Constantly needing a bathroom
- Needing IV medications every 8 hours
- Needing help dealing with a drain attached to my back
- Needing help bathing
… or any of the other medical possibilities — such as my current inability to sleep without waking in a panic because I can’t breathe.
That’s a lot of potential problems to dump on anyone you just met. That was a lot of problems to have dumped on my ex-wife throughout our marriage.
So I have no idea how to develop a safety plan, but it’s something every adult needs — especially if they have some chronic medical condition that they know can render them helpless.
Melissa suggested that if my condition gets unbearable, I should go to an ER because that will at least temporarily get me some sort of help and make sure that there is another person watching over me.
Melissa said the important thing to remember when I get better is that I have to realize that I might get sick again. Even if I think to myself “I’m NEVER going to let myself get that bad again.”
That’s why even when I’m doing well I need to make sure that I have a safety plan in place. Life isn’t always going to be good, so when it’s good is the time to make plans to be prepared for the bad.
Good advice. I just have no idea how to implement it.